The Prom Mom

If you read my blog called “Confessions of a  No Prom Mom” around this time last year, you know I was slightly lamenting over my oldest daughter’s decision to not attend her senior prom. I know it’s their prom and not mine, but I wanted to have the experience and memory of my kids attending their senior prom just like I did. Thankfully, my youngest daughter Fahrelle, who was a junior in high school at that time, committed to attending her prom the following year. I had been waiting anxiously to have a mother-daughter prom experience. The shopping, the dress selection, hair, make up, shoes, pictures…..awww…all the makings of a perfect experience for a girly girl like me. I was finally going to get my fill! Fahrelle made good on her PROMise this past Saturday.

 Although I couldn’t wait for her prom time to come, I was soon ready to see it go. In fact, I was becoming the “so over this prom thing mom”. What happened to all my prom excitement???? It dwindled in the process of planning all the details. Ironically, I enjoy planning, but this time….ehhhh not so much. The stores were overcrowded with moms and daughters just like us, going from store to store looking at limited selections or overwhelmingly large selections of prom gowns, dealing with sometimes rude (or maybe just overworked) retail assistants, standing in line waiting for a dressing room to open up, trying to find a great dress for a great price, yada, yada, yada. Then there was the online internet hunt for a dress. Wait, did I mention Fahrelle and I often clash over fashion choices? That only prolonged the process.

Our first prom dress shopping outing.

Our first prom dress shopping outing at Serendipity in White Plains, MD. All the dresses we loved were by Maggie Sottero for Flirt Prom.

To my daughter’s credit, she did a lot of work for several weeks, researching online for hours to find a prom dress and then texting me photos of the dresses. She used this texting method in an effort to keep the prom dress search rolling on her own as I was consumed with travel and my son’s basketball games. I picked apart every dress she texted me, thinking “will it look the same in person as it does on the computer?”, “is the online company reputable” and the fearful thought “we gotta nail it because these dresses are non refundable”. She scrutinized the dresses I texted her as well, only her responses were very brief (just like a teenager), “mom, that’s ugly”, “uh unnnn”, and “nope”. We did this for weeks until we ultimately got burned out. Finally, we went back to the stores, and then back online again. By this time, prom day was fast approaching and I had called off her attending the prom at least once (or maybe twice). We worked through all our frustrations, got back on board, rushed to get the dress we selected (which happened to be one of the first dresses we liked on our first shopping outing. We allowed our fear of commitment and the hope that something better and less expensive would come along to keep us on the hunt.) That store could no longer order the dress, so I ordered from an online store. It was scheduled to arrive via UPS just a few days before the prom and it DID. I was praying I could get the needed alterations done in time. *Wipes sweat from brow*. There was no room for error. Everything had to work right the first time!

The moment the prom dress arrived. Somebody cue the HAPPY song!

The moment the prom dress arrived just THREE days before prom. Somebody cue the HAPPY song!

And then there was the very important DATE factor. With no boyfriend as the obvious choice for a prom date, the selection process for the guy to escort our daughter to the prom was just as grueling, if not more grueling, than finding the dress. Hey, not just anybody gets to take our girl out for the evening. We needed a background check, credit report, birth certificate, etc. Just kidding. Fortunately, she was pickier than we were! The prom date conversations were hilarious, as we vetted the next president of the United States, uhhh… I mean her potential prom date. Nevertheless, as the dress ordeal came together, so did the prom escort ordeal. We got a parent and daughter approved young man to share this once in a lifetime occasion with her.

Fahrelle receiving her corsage from her prom escort, Christian.

Fahrelle receiving her corsage from her prom escort, Christian.

Prom day had a little drama of its own. My daughter experienced chemical burns on her arms and back from the hair removal product we used on her for the first time. (NOTE to you and reminder to me: NEVER experiment with your appearance on the day of a major event). That put a kink in our schedule that adversely affected the arrival time at the hair salon, which affected our arrival time to the makeup studio. Thankfully, our hairstylist and make up artist were so accommodating. Everything (and I do mean EVERYTHING), worked out just fine!

Makeup of Kelley Woods. Perfection! (Photo by Kelley Woods)

Makeup of Kelley Woods. Perfection! (Photo by Kelley Woods)

As I sit at the finish line and reflect back on this prom process, I cannot help but think of all the things in life we get so excited about the “IDEA” of experiencing. We have some fantasy-like thoughts about what our wedding day will be like, our marriage, our dream job, buying our first home, etc. All we can see is all the good, all the joy, all the fun times that will be wrapped into that experience. We approach it with such naivety, just as I did with this prom experience. But then, once I got into the thick of things, the shopping wasn’t as effortless as I had imagined in my head, the days out scouting for the perfect dress were longer than I liked, I invested more money upfront than I originally intended, and I felt like throwing in the towel a time or two. In essence, it took COMMITMENT to walk out the prom process, and COMMITMENT usually involves you COMMITTING more along the way than you ever intended to COMMIT when you started out. Commitment costs, but commitment pays.


Isn't she lovely?

Isn’t she lovely?

This past Saturday, we got to see the reward of our commitment. Our daughter was beautifully dressed for her senior prom with the perfect prom date by her side, and all the agony of the process was a thing of the past. Then God blessed us with so many beautiful surprises along the way as we walked out our commitment. We did not have to pay a dime for a few of the prom expenses we had planned to pay for. Although the process was agonizing, in the end it was all worth it! And guess what? Whatever process you are committed to will be worth it as well. That vision you had at the beginning wasn’t all wrong. There will be good. Lots of good. And truthfully, if you saw the struggle upfront, maybe you would not have committed to go throughout the process. Keep that vision, no matter how impossible it may seem to accomplish. It will propel you forward. Focusing on it will keep you standing firm when the negative distractions come that make you feel like giving up. It’s worth fighting for. The PROMise will come and it will be worth it!

I love to hear from you! Did this post encourage you at all? Have you ever seen the benefits of not quitting during the process? Do you love prom stuff like I do? Thanks in advance for taking the time to share.






Photographer and family friend DeAunte of PicsNMotion Studios having a talk with them about posing.


Hair by Adia Day of Vogue III, Waldorf, MD.

Our family (minus one).

Our family (minus one).

Honored to have friends gather to for the prom send off.

Honored to have friends gather together for the prom send off.


Fahrelle attended prom with a group of friends.

Fahrelle attended prom with a group of friends.

Easy Panko Crusted Swai

Panko Breaded Swai

I love fish, so I am always in search of a new fish to try out in my kitchen. Recently, I noticed a fish called SWAI being offered in my local grocery store. I finally bought some to try out. It is a mild, white fish originating from Southeast Asia.  I researched a couple of ways to prepare it, and made it for done one day. I really liked the fish. My kids, ehhh not so much. I kept buying it and trying it out anyway. (I live by the rule of trying something seven times before deciding if you like it or not). I decided to try swai breaded with panko bread crumbs. It was a winner! My oldest child tried it and loved it. On another note, I put some pan seared pieces of swai in my middle child’s pasta dish and she thought it was tilapia and loved it. Shhh…I still haven’t confessed about that one. I don’t think she reads my blog, so no biggie. 🙂 This recipe is easy. I rarely make things with tons of ingredients. I also like to use ingredients that are commonly found in any grocery store.


 No worries if you are not into swai, this recipe works will with tilapia. 

Swai Fillets

I only used two swai fillets, but you can use up to five or six fillets with the amount of ingredients we will use.

Swai Fillets

I don’t like large fillets, so I cut mine in half. These fillets are pretty long anyway, so cutting them in half helps them fit into my pan. 

Lemon Pepper Seasoning

Place the panko bread crumbs (which happen to resemble Rice Crispy Cereal), Trader Joe’s 21 Season Salute, black pepper, and lemon pepper into a shallow dish, large enough to coat the fillets without bending them.

Panko Seasoning Blend

Stir the mixture until all the seasonings are distributed evenly throughout.

Panko Bread Crumb Seasoning

In another shallow dish, crack an egg and add 2 tablespoons of water to it. (My oldest daughter is my hand model today. She was the perfect choice since she has long slender fingers, and she always keeps her nails done.)



Whisk away….(This mini whisk has to be one of my fav kitchen toys. Don’t have one? Grab one here.)

Egg Wash

Egg Wash

Dip both sides of the fillets in the egg wash.

Swai Dipped Egg WashThen coat them in the panko bread crumb mixture….

Panko Breaded Swai

Panko Breaded Swai

Panko Breaded Swai

Now they are ready to go into the pan. You can use a skillet, it’s all good.

Panko Breaded Swai

Just coat the bottom of the skillet with vegetable oil. Olive oil works as well. In a perfect world, my pan would be totally flat and my oil would evenly cover the bottom of the skillet.

Hot oil

Once the oil is  hot, add you fillets

Panko Breaded Swai

Panko Breaded Swai

Once they are nice and brown, flip ’em over to brown the other side.

Panko Breaded Swai

Panko Breaded Swai

So now, they are done. Remove them from the pan to feed the starving family that patiently waited for the food to have a photo shoot before they could eat. (Maybe that’s just at my house).

Panko Breaded Swai

Pretty, huh?

Panko Breaded Swai

I served mine with my crazy corn cakes and sautéed kale from my cookbook Fast & Fabulous Family Meals. Every southern girl loves greens and cornbread, right?

Panko Breaded Swai

So what do you think??? Let me know in the comments. If you post this on social media, be sure to use the hashtag #fastandfabmeals and you become an official #rocqstar!


Panko Crusted Swai
Serves 6
Easy way to cook Swai or almost any white fish of your choice. Panko bread crumbs, a few seasonings, and egg wash are all the ingredients needed for this quick and easy meal.
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Prep Time
15 min
Cook Time
10 min
Total Time
25 min
Prep Time
15 min
Cook Time
10 min
Total Time
25 min
  1. 5 swai fillets
  2. 3/4 cup panko bread crumbs, plain
  3. 2 teaspoons Trader Joe's 21 Season Salute
  4. 1 teaspoon lemon pepper
  5. 1 teaspoon black pepper
  6. 1 egg
  7. 2 tablespoons water
  8. 3 tablespoons vegetable oil or extra-virgin olive oil
  9. Kitchen equipment: skillet, spatula, tongs, 2 shallow pans for coating fish, tablespoon, mini whisk or fork.
  1. Kitchen equipment: skillet, spatula, tongs, 2 shallow pans for coating fish, mini whisk or fork.
  2. Cut fillet in half horizontally.
  3. In a shallow dish, combine panko bread crumbs and dry seasonings. Stir until seasonings are evenly distributed throughout bread crumbs.
  4. In a different shallow dish, whisk together egg and water.
  5. Dip both sides of fillets in egg wash, then dip both sids into bread crumb mixture.
  6. Heat oil in skillet over high heat.
  7. When oil is hot, place fillets in skillet and allow them to cook for about 3 minutes, or until desired brown color is reached.
  8. Flip over fillets and cook on the other side for an additional 3 minutes or until desired brown color is reached. Be sure fish is cooked throughout as well.
  9. Remove from skillet onto a paper towel covered plate, to absorb excess oil.
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Grilled Chicken Taco Recipe

I was in search of some quick dinner options that would use up the lifetime supply of boneless skinless chicken breasts I have stored in my freezer. Ok, it’s not really a lifetime supply, but it is a pretty big bag. Since we were snowed in yet again, going to the grocery store for ingredients wasn’t an option. I had to use some things I already had (which I like doing anyway). Chicken breasts, avocado, shredded cheese, sour cream, tortillas were ingredients I already had in my stock, so chicken tacos is what I came up with. PERFECT since our family loves tacos.

I thawed about 5 chicken breasts, and then pounded them flat. I despise large chicken breasts since they are difficult to cook evenly without them drying out. Thin breasts cook quicker and stay moist easily. Who likes dry chicken??? NOBODY. I put my chicken breasts in  a freezer size Ziploc bag prior to pounding flat with the smooth side of my meat tenderizer to avoid splatter. The flatter, the better.


I cut away any excess fatty parts, and then season them up with taco seasoning. Don’t bother buying “chicken taco seasoning” because I don’t think there is a difference besides the name. (If you know of a difference, let me know in the comments).


Be generous with your seasoning. It makes a difference in the taste.

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I seasoned both sides well before they headed into the heated grill pan. Now, you can drizzle some vegetable or canola oil over your breasts or make sure your grill pan is oiled before putting the chicken in there. Also, make sure the grill pan is hot, or your chicken will stick, and that’s not cute at all! A little oil will help you get those pretty grill marks as well, so oil away!


You want the breasts to cook about 3 -5 minutes on one side before flipping them over. Grill marks should be evident as well.


And now let them cook on the other side. Simple, huh? Your main ingredient done in less than ten minutes. That’s fast and fabulous my friends. Let them rest for about 5 minutes before slicing them up.


And then slice away. We like slices over chunks, but hey, do what your family likes.


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Yum! Looks good, doesn’t it? Speaking of looking good, I like to grill my tortillas so they look good as well. Clean that grill pan now, or simply grill your tortillas before you grill the chicken (hmmmm…maybe I should have told you that up front). I like to do it afterwards though so my tortillas are warm when I get ready to eat them. Heat up your lightly oiled grill pan, and place your first tortilla in there for a minute.  Do it any longer, and your tortilla will turn into a big cracker. (Lol).

IMG_0832Flip it over and let it grill for another minute or just until you get the grill marks. Don’t worry if it starts to puff up. It will go down immediately after it’s removed from the grill pan.


Nice, huh?


Now we are ready to assemble the tacos. You can use store bought tomato salsa, or make your own like I usually do. My recipe is my cookbook. I also sliced up some avocado to go along with my other fixings of sour cream and  shredded cheese. Black beans served as our side dish. Rice wouldn’t hurt either, but I didn’t have any so we did without.


I like to assemble them in this order: chicken, salsa, avocado, cheese, sour cream. I add a few sprigs of cilantro on top.


Dinner is done. So easy, or shall I say FAST AND FABULOUS! Let me hear from you in the comment section.


Here’s a look at the tools I used. All items are available here in my cooking store.


Grilled Chicken Taco Recipe

5 boneless skinless chicken breasts

5 tablespoons taco seasoning

1 tablespoon of canola or vegetable oil

10 flour tortillas, taco size

1 cup shredded mexican cheese

1 cup of salsa (homemade or store bought)

sour cream

fresh cilantro and lime for garnish

Kitchen Equipment

cutting board


grill pan

meat tenderizer


citrus squeezer (used in homemade salsa)



Place chicken breasts in freezer size ziploc bag and flatten with smooth side of meat tenderizer.

Cut away any fatty pieces from breasts.

Season breasts with taco seasoning and drizzle with oil.

Heat grill pan over high heat. Grill breasts for 3-5 minutes per side.

Remove from grill pan and allow to rest for 5 minutes before slicing.

Slice breasts into 1/2 inch slices or thinner.

Clean grill pan and oil lightly.

Heat grill pan to high, and grill tortillas for about one minute on each side.

Assemble tacos with chicken slices and 2 teaspoons of salsa (or more if you like). Garnish with fresh avocado slices, shredded cheese, and fresh cilantro. Serve with black beans.

Serves 5


Healthy Peanut Butter Chocolate Shake


There is no flavor combination better than peanut butter and chocolate in my book. God bless the person who decided to marry those flavors together. And God bless the person that created the sweet little peanut butter and chocolate candy bar cups that I love (they may be the same person for all I know). Have you ever tasted a cheesecake, brownie, or pie with chocolate and peanut butter???? Oh my. Heavenly tasting indeed!

The one thing all of those decadent food items I just named have in common (besides peanut butter and chocolate) is that they are all DESSERTS. I am endeavoring to divorce myself from desserts this year. Well, actually just break up for a while with occasional visits only. My point is, me and desserts have been seeing way too much of each other lately, and it is always at my expense.

My efforts to replace some of those sugary snacks led me to my local organic market to find out what healthier options were out there, if any. I had been hearing about cacao nibs and cacao powder, so I decided to check them out. Cacao is the bean that chocolate is made from, and it reported to be full of antioxidants. I started with a small package of the nibs, and they had a decent chocolate taste. I did not buy any cacao powder, and I am glad I did not. I discovered my Hershey’s Cocoa Powder I use for baking boasted that it was “natural unsweetened” and 100% cacao. I thought I would start there. It’s not organic, but for me, it’s a step in a great direction. I did grab a container of peanut butter, and I do mean the organic, all natural container that literally only has one ingredient– ground peanuts. In fact, the store had the machine available where you could grind the peanuts and get the peanut butter yourself. They had the same options available for almond butter, too. I enjoyed the peanut butter. It gave me the peanut butter taste I love, minus all the sugar. Did I mention it is a great source of protein and fiber?

Now that I had my two favorite ingredients together, it was time to start creating with it. The first and only thing I have made so far is this healthy chocolate peanut butter shake. I loved it! Here’s how I made it.

Healthy Chocolate Peanut Butter Protein Shake
Healthy Chocolate Peanut Butter Protein Shake

Healthy Chocolate Peanut Butter Protein Shake

1 scoop vanilla whey protein powder*

2 teaspoons Hershey’s Cocoa Powder

1 tablespoon all natural organic peanut butter

1 cup original unsweetened almond milk

5 ice cubes

chia seeds


Blend all the ingredients together in a **blender until completely uniform in color. Top with organic chia seeds for an added health benefit as chia seeds are great for curbing those snack cravings. See Dr. Oz video about them  here.

*I used vanilla whey protein because I like the way it tastes over most of the chocolate flavored whey protein powders out there. Be sure to try to vegan friendly protein powders if you are on a plant based diet.

**There are plenty of pricey blenders out there, but I use this inexpensive Oster 6706 6-Cup Plastic Jar 10-Speed Blender, Black. 

By the way, I do no eat bananas, but I imagine they may be a great addition to this shake.

Let me know your thoughts on this recipe in the comments. I love hearing from you!

Flawless Fashionista

My love for great fashion has been revived, thanks to the flawless Ms. Lupita Nyong’o, actress from the Oscar Winning moving 12 Years A Slave. She is so beautiful. Pure perfection. And she happens to have the glam squad to make her shine on the red carpet, particularly her wardrobe stylist, Micaela Erlanger and her hair stylist Ted Gibson. Lupita is on the rise, and her Oscar win from last night has helped secure her place as a top notch actress and style icon.

Here is her most recent look that I love! Follow my Flawless board on Pintrest to see my other Lupita favs.


Quit Stressing, Start Blogging

I will admit, it was never my idea to start this blog. I was influenced by a fellow blogging friend, and I am glad I was! Once the blogging bug hit me, I LOVED it. I got my ideas on paper and eventually started my blog. I loved it (wait, did I say that already). I have always enjoyed putting my thoughts in writing. The response from my friends and family was great as well. Then I started getting busy. I started doing more lengthy Facebook posts instead of blogs. It started seeing blogging as work, and I was not looking for any more work. I have plenty to do already. Then I got re-inspired (is that a word?) by other bloggers. So, I am committing to rescuing my blog from the graveyard and tending to it way more often. After all, this is my home, my heart, my thoughts, my ideas, my inspirations. I’m not stressing over the typos or grammatical errors so much (but if you see some, email me and let me know, okkkkk???photo 2). I’m just going to blog, stress free. Happy blogging to me. Happy reading to you!

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$1 Ways to Show Love

Whoever said showing love had to cost a fortune? When it comes to showing love, creativity and attention to details count BIG. I have come across various $1 products you could use to make a special someone feel special. These are great ideas if you are on a budget or just want to give a large quantity of gifts to someone.

My shrimp and grits.

My shrimp and grits.

I purchased this $1 heart shaped bowl from Target. Serve their favorite one dish meal in this bowl for a great wow factor. Make an impression at breakfast by placing their oatmeal or cold cereal in this bowl. It instantly says, “I love you.”





redhot mintsCute heart shaped candy filled glass bowls with clever hand written notes make big impact on a bedside table or an office desktop. These candy dishes were purchased at Dollar Tree. They sell a variety of candy that will give an even more sweet appeal.





mailboxWho doesn’t want a good love letter? This $1 mini mailbox from Target makes it easy to present it nicely. Write a heartfelt handwritten love letter and put it in the mailbox. Place the mailbox near your tray of incoming home mail and raise the flag to signify that there is sweet news inside for someone special.  Feel free to personalize the mailbox with stickers, handwriting, etc.




berry glassHere is a “berry” healthy way to show your love for a health conscious loved one. Fill a plastic glass from Dollar Tree with a variety of berries. Decorate it with a ribbon and a tag that says, “I love you berry much.”





doiliesThese $1 packs of intricate cut heart doilies can be hung from the ceiling using fish wire and transparent tape to give the illusion of floating hearts in a room. Hang them at varying heights for an easy and inexpensive visual display of your love.





icecubesLove can be revealed in the small thoughtful details like these heart shaped ice cubes. Fill the $1 silicon ice cube tray from Target with water and place the frozen cubes in this $1 bowl from Dollar Tree. What an easy way to upgrade your beverages.





rosepetalsRose petals loosely placed on the floor, in a bubble bath filled tub, or inside this $1 glass candle holder from Dollar Tree just exudes romance. Place a floating candle in the water filled candle holder to add ambience to the room. Use a cluster of these candle holders to give the room an extra boost of ambience. Oh yeah, the rose petals come in a pack of 100 at Dollar Tree. What a steal of a deal!




photoLong stem wine glasses are perfect for displaying desserts, especially desserts with visual interest throughout like a trifle. Make a strawberry sweetheart trifle with pink whipped cream for a sweet touch! The long stem wine glasses were another fabulous find from Dollar Tree.




These are just a few ideas I came up with to inspire you. I just wanted to prove how creative you can be regardless of your budget. What other low cost, high impact ideas have you come up with? Please share. I love to hear your thoughts and feedback.



SuperMom Decoded Tip- Displaying your love for someone does not have to cost a fortune. Use your creativity to show someone you care!

Six Types of Facebook Friends Everyone Has

If you have been active on Facebook for any length of time, undoubtedly there are a variety of friends who interact with your posts. Since there is no official book written about social media rules, people often develop their own code of conduct on these types of outlets. During my years of being on Facebook as a self-confessed FB addict, coupled with my love for the psychology of people, I have summarized a few categories that some of my FB friends fall into. My intention isn’t to offend anyone. I just wanted to present my observations and offer a few social media suggestions here and there. Also, just for laughs, I want to see if I am the only one who has noticed these friend categories! So, here we go….

1. The Late-Liker- This is the friend that periodically goes through your posts and photos and likes them….5 years after the date you originally posted it. Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating a little, but you know what I mean, right? There’s nothing wrong with the late-liker at all. It’s just that “liking” a post puts it right back into the current newsfeed. It can be great if you posted something exciting or extremely helpful to others because it will have the probability of positively helping more people that just didn’t see it before. On the other hand, it can be not so great if they liked a post that you don’t care to be reminded of. I believe these people get on Facebook periodically, so they play catch up whenever they log on. Or sometimes they just go through all your FB post history all at once. It’s cool though. We still love them, right?

2. The Irrelevant Commenter– You just did a post, sharing a wonderful testimony about the surprise romantic dinner your spouse just planned for you, complete with a live music serenade. All your friends are commenting with ohhhhs and ahhhhss…and then…they comment something like this, “Does Scandal come on tonight or is this the week it’s not being aired?” or “Did you get my text message?”  HUH???? What does that have to do with the price of tea in China??? Comments made on posts should be relevant to what was posted. If not, use the wall post or inbox feature please!  I think they are just looking for the easiest way to catch you live on FB and get an answer to their question. Yeah, that’s what we will say about that! (wink)

3. The Stalker– They read every one of your posts and look at all your photos. In fact, they purposely search you out to check you out. There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s why you post things on a public social networking site. You already know others will see it. The only difference in these people and your “regular Facebook friends” is that the stalker rarely hits “like”. You only know they stalk you because when you see them in person, they recall all of your Facebook happenings to you with full accuracy. Ironically, I just met two of my stalkers after I wrote the first draft of this blog. It was a little scary. To clarify – I know that people keep up with me, but sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of the degree in which they do it. The level of secrecy in which they do it is a little suspect in my opinion. Honestly, it is always optional to hit “like”, whether you really like the post or not. I would just like all the stalkers to know that if you post things as well, and would desire more interaction on your own posts, the best way to do that is to like the posts of others. Yes it is true. Even Facebook complies with the Biblical principle of gaining friends by showing yourself friendly. Likes and comments on FB are equal to showing yourself friendly!

4. The Secret Lover– No matter how many pictures you post of your spouse or your boyfriend or girlfriend, no matter how happy you appear to be in your posts, no matter if your profile picture features you and your spouse, the secret lover will inbox you just to be sure you’re not open to any options. Many times, they don’t even read your posts or look at your pictures. Their first interaction with you after you accept their friend request is a flirtatious comment to your inbox, or sometimes just a “hey” message in your inbox. REALLY????  And let us not be deceived, they are not necessarily interested in you because of your good looks or intellectually stimulating posts. Oh no, they are just interested in anybody that will give them an ear. In such cases, the block button is a beautiful thing. I refuse to give one second of attention to those interested in becoming my secret lover. In fact, as a rule, if I don’t know you, I won’t reply to inbox messages that only say “Hey”. I love my relationship, and I won’t allow any other relationship to ruin it, especially not a virtual one!

Now if you are reading this and getting a lot of unsolicited attention from secret lovers, I think you should consider doing a self-check first. Does your profile picture look provocative or inviting to secret lovers? You know, ladies, is your cleavage showing? Is your profile picture a picture of your behind in tight clothing or of you in your shortest shorts or mini skirt? If so, you look easy and will continue to attract those looking for someone easy. Men and women, are you married but rarely mention your spouse, even if they are not into social media? Are they left out of most of your posts or pictures? Do most of your pictures depict you out with your friends and never with your family, although you are married? Well, that is probably the main reason why you are attracting that type of attention. Change what you present to help change what you attract.

5. The News Blues– I don’t even watch the news anymore. One reason is because I find it extremely depressing. But since I am active on Facebook, I don’t have to watch the news. I have a friend or two or three or more that always post the doom and gloom of the day like who got shot, who molested a child, who killed someone, who got run over, etc. There’s nothing really wrong with posting things from the news or being abreast of what is happening in the world around you. It’s just that there is a difference between being abreast and being absorbed. The friend that constantly posts the bad happenings of the world has contracted what I call The News Blues. You watch it long enough, listen to it enough, read about it enough, talk about it enough, you ingest it into your system and you catch it. Once you catch it, it brings you down. You have a bleak outlook on life and the entire world. Since our lives are dominated by our thoughts, we should think on things lovely, pure, and of a good report. Focus more on these things. Furthermore, consider posting news stories from a positive angle. For instance, if someone needs prayer due to a tragedy or if there is a missing child we can all band together and help find, that is a better angle. Maybe there is a weather storm heading to a particular area and others need to be warned and covered in prayer. This gives people a chance to react in a way that can positively affect our world rather than shake our heads and say, “what an awful world we live in.” Your world will be as awful as you believe it is. Look for good and see good!















6. The Diary Dialoguer– This friend’s posts could very well start off saying “Dear Diary”. In other words, all of their personal issues, their shortcomings, their offenses, their faults with themselves, and the fault they find in their family and friends are all posted publicly as a Facebook post. Facebook becomes their online therapy session. Posts made about family and friends are usually made without their consent and often result in damaging those relationships even the more instead of healing them. Facebook is a great resource whereby you can benefit from those that are willing to share their solicited and unsolicited wisdom with you, but the way you go about obtaining that wisdom speaks volumes about your character. If you have identified people that you believe can help you, try the inbox feature! That way you can still get the help you need without the whole social media world seeing it. Everyone does not need to know everything about you. Once you’re over it, they’re probably not! Use discretion on what you share. Also, remember that words have power to hurt and to heal. Facebook shall pass away but relationships with your family will still be there. Get out of your emotions. Think before you post.

These are just a few FB friends I came up with. I forgot to mention the Tireless Tagger (tags you on everything that has nothing to do with you), and the Game Inviter (the name says it all). Can you think of any others??? Remember, keep comments fun and helpful!